41/52 – Surprise
We’ve accidentally entered into the realm of potty learning. Back in June I read this blog about potty learning, and in July the Doodle exhibited signs of readiness. We bought a potty, it sat in the bathroom, then we renovated the bathroom so it sat in her room, and when we wrapped up the reno a few weeks ago, we put the potty back in the bathroom.
The Doodle really likes her potty. I think it has less to do with pottying and more to do with the fact that it’s the only chair in the house that toddler-sized. So she likes to sit there and read…for quite a while.
We started by trying to ask her if she wanted to potty at a time when we thought she’d be likely to go to the bathroom. We’d to this every day, every other day, every third day or whenever was convenient for us. It was hit or miss. Sometimes she’d pee, and other times she wouldn’t. She was pretty insistent however, that she needed to have her own little wad of toilet paper whenever it was potty time. A wad of toilet paper that had to go between her legs and into the potty before she used it.
We’ve been really casual about the whole thing. The Doodle’s a stubborn kid. She’s also really young. So we figured it might take us 6 or so more months to get to the serious potty learning.
But about two weeks ago, the Doodle had her first poop on the potty. It was totally accidental. I didn’t know she had gone until she stood up. But she knew she had gone and something clicked for her.
Then we noticed that her diapers from daycare were coming home sopping wet and she was only get two changes a day. We weren’t thrilled about this so we talked with the staff. That’s when we were hit with an unexpected revelation.
The daycare staff were checking her diaper frequently and each time it was bone dry. And then they’d check a little bit later and she’d be soaked. Somewhere along the way the Doodle developed the ability to hold her pee for a little bit longer.
This revelation came at the exact same time the Doodle hit another potty development. She figured out how to pee on command.
Instead of sitting at the potty and staring into the empty bowl wondering why there was no pee, the Doodle suddenly had a revelation of her own. She’d developed some basic control over her bodily functions.
The best part of this picture is that I captured the surprise that she had indeed peed. She looked down and there it was in the potty. This is the moment that it clicked for her. She was surprised and thrilled and she knew how to pee intentionally.
This weekend we were 5 attempts for 5 successes on the potty! I’m not quite sure who was more surprised, the Doodle or us?
I’ve read that kids who are cloth diapered transition to the potty at a much earlier age than kids who are cloth diapered. Up to a whole year earlier. I didn’t quite believe that when I first read it, but I now see how it would totally be possible. The Doodle has been giving us all clear signs – unfortunately not the diaper sign or saying the word diaper – that she needed to be changed.
She pulls at her diaper if it’s wet. And if you didn’t catch her right after pooping, she was very pleased to (ahem) show you a little sample from her diaper.
I’m finding this potty learning stage to be so fascinating as I finally get what all of these parents who practice elimination communication have been saying about cues. There are cues that I can finally see.
We’ll keep on pottying along until the Doodle is ready to tell us that she has to go to the bathroom. Then I guess we’ll make the serious transition from diapers to underpants. I think that could be quite some time from now.
[Edited – Three days later, I got a gut feeling that the Doodle had to poop after dinner so I took her to the potty. She knew what to do and let one rip within a few minutes. The next night, for the first time ever, she told us ‘poop’ and she hadn’t gone yet. So we whisked her to the potty and there she went. Could I really be on the verge of having a toileting nearly 19 month old? That just seems so unreal to me.]